Archives For Grief

Over the past month many people have asked me this question. So here are my thoughts and some quotes that I’ve channeled from my Spirit Guide, ‘MARK’

I heard the news of Trump’s surprising win from our tour guide while we visited a floating fishing village on a lake off the Mekong River in Cambodia. Our group was spending the night in the floating home of a family who raises crocodiles. The crocs were literally in pens below the house where we slept. The symbolism seemed apt.
Like most Americans—those who didn’t vote for him, and even those who did, we were in shock.

Yep, we were thrust headfirst into the classic grief process:

1.  Denial. The shock is initially too great to believe it could have happened.

2.  Bargaining. We handle the shock with ideas that might mitigate the outcome. How could this be? Maybe there will be a recount? The results must be wrong. Didn’t Hillary win the popular vote? Could I cast a spell, or say some reality-shifting prayer and have some other candidate be our next president?

3.  Anger. You got that right! Anger at all those who voted for Trump. Anger at those too lazy to vote. Anger that women’s rights, minority rights, and the plight of the poor might not be honored. Anger is a strong emotion that isn’t ready to be taken in, so it is projected. Anger is the initial mask for the more painful emotions of Grief and Fear.

4.  Grief/Fear.  Just plain pain. Sadness. Feeling the hurt. The disappointment. The loss. Feeling your Fear. Many people are talking about their Fear these days.

5. Acceptance. Honestly, I’m not fully there yet. I do accept the premise of our democracy. I do honor the office of the presidency. I am staying out of the drama, and am getting better at remaining neutral. My fingers are crossed. I’m looking for ways to remain hopeful. I am an optimist.


Considering the Anger and Fear phases, ‘MARK’ channeled this:


“You believe that righteous anger is admissible. We say that all anger is destructive. The imbalance you see in the world is a call to rebalance. It’s a call to be neutral, not to another side of the pendulum swing. A pendulum swinging back and forth is not the way to create a stable society. An expanded neutral space is inclusive and active. Hold that in yourself.

“Positions, no matter how righteously held, always have the prospect of disavowing an alternate position. Disavowing of someone else’s position or their right to their position is the foundation of all conflict. It’s hard. It takes someone to stand in the flow of their own life-force to also see everyone else’s life-force as beautiful, brilliant, and having the right to be shining, and to not be threatened by it.

“Your society is currently one of powerlessness to inauthentic power—often the power of money or the power of position. This is not humanity’s highest expression. Feeling sorry for or feeling angry at things outside yourself keeps the illusion wrapped around your throat.

“When you see people standing loudly in inauthentic power (many of your politicians), it is a call to stand more fully in your power. As millions of you do that it creates a tipping point where those who live in inauthentic power can never take power from those who stand fully in their life force.”


There is a lot to look at in Trump’s election. What is the message?

trumppenceChopra says that Trump brings out the dark side of humanity. “He represents a state of collective consciousness that is in fear, that has dormant prejudice, hatred… It’s a moment of sobriety for all of us to see that this is part of our dark side… our shadow.”

We need to ask ourselves, “What is this showing us that we’ve been afraid to acknowledge?  Where is our hidden racism, isolationism, anger and fear?” If we never see it, we can never address it. Acknowledging what we haven’t wanted to look at is a good thing. It is the film’s processing in the darkroom that allows the negative to give birth to a beautiful photo. The dark room is vital to the process.

Trump isn’t just showing us our collective angst. He promises to fix it. “I can do this. I can Make America Great Again. I’ll create jobs, keep out immigrants, bomb the hell out of ISIS.” We want to believe everything he says. We want him to make it all OK for us. We want a savior. We want change… at all costs.

Hillary Clinton represented the mask, the continuation of the illusion, the status quo.  Journalists have called Trump the ‘Master Illusionist’; building his brand, his billions. I see him as a Master Diss-Illusionist. Through his unpredictable brashness his role may be to challenge the illusion, breaking it apart. Or perhaps he is a Dissolutionist, dissolving what was there before.

All empires decline. The question I’m asking myself is: “Does it begin first with  an economic decline, or is it a fundamental decline in values that triggers the fall?”

mark-the-real-trumpAs part of my acceptance, I choose to believe that some of the things Trump is challenging absolutely need to be called into question, broken down so that a new and different world can emerge.

I actually used to like politics. Back when idealism wasn’t trumped by reality.

This photo of my boyfriend Mark was taken in October 2016. As a Hillary supporter I wasn’t thrilled. I teased him that it was just cardboard cut-outs, but I have to admit: It is a good photo of both of them. 😉

About Jonette

jcrowley-turquoise 22Jonette is a spiritual adventurer and modern-day shaman who leads spiritual tours to power places around the globe. She is a gifted channel, oracle, and author of the internationally best-selling books “The Eagle and the Condor” and “Soul Body Fusion®.” She is the founder of the Soul Body Fusion® method for healing and beyond. With her guide “Mark” she teaches people to reach multi-dimensional and quantum states of consciousness.

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I’ve been asked to blog about the plane crashes recently – especially the Malaysian flight shot down over Ukraine. I wish I had words of wisdom or brilliant phrases of comfort. But I have none of this. I have only the grief in my own heart. Grief knocks me to the ground where I can feel real again. Pain and grief can do that. They open our hearts to feelings, opening doors we would rather keep bolted shut.

malaysian-planeSuch events beg us to ask the existential question “Why?” and “Why those people?” The answer isn’t: “ The Russians thought it was a military plane.” The question goes deeper. “Why war?” For that question I REALLY don’t have an answer… except maybe to look within and see where I hold grudges, anger, resentment, and fear.  I can use outside events as a pointer to where I need to heal my own emotions.

Perhaps the question isn’t “Why did they die?” Perhaps the better question is “What are each of us going to do with it?” Are we going to hate? Feel hopeless and ring our hands? Or are we going to love even harder? Everyone. Every minute.

When we choose to love harder, the human angels who died in those crashes give us a high-five. Their torch has been passed.

(CopyRight 2014

JC with turbanJonette is a spiritual adventurer, and modern-day shaman who leads spiritual tours to power places around the globe. She is a gifted channel, oracle, and author of the internationally best-selling books “The Eagle and the Condor” and “Soul Body Fusion®.” She is founder of the Soul Body Fusion® method for healing and beyond. With her guide “Mark” she teaches people to reach multi-dimensional and quantum states of consciousness.,